TOMBOY: I don't skate like a man, just a darn good women

TOMBOY: I don't skate like a man, just a darn good women

BY SARAH BAICKER, CSN PHILLY

In late December, I was invited to play in a pick-up hockey game with some other members of the local sports media community. It shouldn’t come as a surprise that I was one of only two women there that day. Even now, female ice hockey players aren’t exactly common.

After the game, a reporter I’ve known a while — a guy I like a lot — said to me: “Don’t take this the wrong way, but you skate like a man.”

I didn’t take it wrong, of course; he meant it as a compliment. The reporter wanted nothing more than to tell me I’d impressed him.

I thought about this exchange a lot in the days that followed.

Had someone told me I played hockey like a boy when I was 15, I would have worn that description like a badge.

Hell yeah, 15-year-old Sarah would have thought, I do play like a boy. I’m as tough as a boy. I’m as fierce and competitive as any boy on my team. I would have reveled in it, just as I reveled in a similar label I’d received even earlier in my adolescence: tomboy.

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Yeah, I was a tomboy. I hung around with the neighborhood boys, riding bikes between each other’s houses or catching salamanders in the creek that ran through town. I loved sports, and my bedroom walls — papered with newspaper clippings and photos of Flyers players — were a far cry from the pink-tinged rooms that belonged to the girls at school. 

As much as I could, I dressed like a boy too, even once cutting the sleeves off of an oversized T-shirt before I went out to rollerblade with our next-door neighbors. My grandmother, who was visiting at the time, pulled me aside to tell me I really ought to dress more appropriately. I rolled my eyes.

I was a tomboy, and I loved the word and everything it stood for.

I felt pride in my tomboyishness, believing that the things I liked — the things boys liked — were clearly better than the things stereotypically left to the girls.

I’m almost embarrassed to admit it was a conversation with a 15-year-old that changed my perspective, just a few days after my reporter friend had compared my hockey skills to those of a man.

I sat down with Mo’ne Davis, the female Little League pitching phenom, for this very project. I asked her if she identified as a tomboy, and she shrugged. Not really, she said. Maybe other people wanted to define her that way, she suggested, but that wasn’t how she viewed things.

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You know that record scratch sound effect they play on TV or in the movies? The one that denotes a sort of “wait … what?!” moment? That’s what happened in my head. Mo’ne Davis, the girl who played on the boys’ team and excelled, didn’t consider herself a tomboy?

Something clicked in my head after that. I’ve long identified as a feminist, and I’ve been a big supporter of girls in sports for as long as I can remember. I coach girls hockey, I’ve spoken at schools and camps about playing and working in sports as a woman. For some reason, though, it took a 15-year-old shrugging her shoulders at the label “tomboy” to take the power out of the word for me. Why does one have to be a tomboy, when one can simply be a girl who kicks ass? How had I never considered this before?

In many ways (and especially in sports) if something is male, it’s considered superior. It goes beyond just the things kids like to do, and it’s all old news. It’s also something I’m ashamed to admit I’ve bought into for practically all of my life. But no longer. How can I help change the narrative if I’m too busy playing along with it?

And if I could do it over, when that reporter approached me after our hockey game to tell me I skated like a man, I would have smiled, shook my head and said: Nah. But I skate like a darn good woman.

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3 bold predictions: Washington looks to snap skid in Philadelphia

3 bold predictions: Washington looks to snap skid in Philadelphia

The Caps have lost both of their games since returning from the bye. They will look to get snap that skid Wednesday in Philadelphia against the Flyers (8 p.m., NBCSN). Here are three bold predictions for the game.

1. Washington will lead after the first period

The Caps had bad starts in both of their games over the weekend, especially on Sunday against the Rangers in which they gave up 19 shots on goal in the first 20 minutes. Washington knows that to get back to their winning ways, they need a strong start Wednesday.

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2. Players will be given matching minors

It’s always contentious when the Caps play the Flyers, especially when the game is in Philadelphia. I would call for a fight, but no one fights anymore. At some point, things will get heated to the point that a player from each side will be sent to cool off in the penalty box.

3. Washington’s third line will score

This is not so much as a prediction as it is a challenge. In the two games the Caps have played against the Flyers this season, Andre Burakovsky has scored in both games. Burakovsky, however, is out with injury and Zach Sanford is in his place. The third line has been able to find success against Philadelphia this season and that will continue tonight with Sanford playing alongside Brett Connolly and Lars Eller.

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